My living conifer arch thanks to the right support!
If you visit my garden and look at some of my weeping
conifers you may think that there is something amiss. I love weeping trees for
their uniqueness and character. Most of my trees look odd with stakes poking out
of them. There may be several support stakes poised in curious directions. My
garden is a like a paint canvass and I love to unleash my creativity which
includes creating the unusual and funky. Weeping trees are like that odd flashy
relative at a family reunion – you are mesmerized and just keep staring at
them.
For years I have been training my conifers to grow in
crazy directions. I even have a few that look like tall, wise old gents
overseeing the garden with outstretched arms. In some of these pictures you can
see where trees are being trained to weep where I want them too. I have coaxed a few of them to create living
arches over some of my paths. It’s incredible to walk through the garden under
lush green arches that gently sway in the breeze. The key is providing the
weepers with the right kind of support.
To grow into magnificent living sculptures, weeping trees
need support. They can’t flourish into what is in your imagination alone. They
also need patience and for you to carry out the vision of what they can be in
your mind. In short, they need you because you provide the structure that they
seek when they need it most.
Creating living
weeping sculptures is simple. Start with a weeping conifer with pliable
branches and simply drive a support stake from a garden center into the ground
until its sturdy. The size of the stake
should be taller than the branch that you will be supporting. Simply tie the
branch(s) in the direction that you want them to grow onto the
post with garden twine or tape. Don’t tie them too tight because the circumference
of a tree branch grows more quickly than you may think and you don’t want to
choke it by tying too tightly. Tie it enough so the branch remains supported
yet, the branch or trunk has some slight wiggle room.
You will probably need to practise tying the branches a
few times but its simple once you have the hang of it. That’s all you need to
do! Within a year or two you can remove the stake and you will have a living
art piece. Here are some of my favorite weeping conifers to use in the garden:
Weeping White Pine
Weeping Alaska Cedar
Weeping Norway Spruce
Weeping Larch
Weeping Serbian Spruce
Weeping Japanese Red Pine
Weeping Bald cypress
Weeping Hemlock
Weeping Blue Spruce
There are literally hundreds of weeping conifers for
homeowners to start growing living art in the yard. There are several excellent online garden
sites where you can curate some unusual weepers for your yard. The best part? Staking
and occasionally watering conifers are the hardest part about growing them into
something where people say “Wow!”
Not surprisingly, we aren’t so different from plant life.
There are times when we all need support in order to spread out and
grow into magnificent “living art”. The tree stake that so many of us use to stake trees in our
yards represents the many forms of support that enable us all to become the
best that we can be in both our personal and professional lives. Our society is
fast paced and we have become a world where we shoulder too much and feel like we need to do it all. Asking for help or admitting that
we can’t handle a project or problem on our own leaves us feeling weak or
ineffective. I have a hard time asking for assistance because I don’t like
bothering others and I tell myself that I can handle what is thrown at me. Wrong!
Slowly, I feel that there is more societal acceptance brewing
where people admit that we all need a little help or support – and it’s OK. The
complexities of work and family have pushed many of us to pull back to try to
find a better balance. Even business is pushing employees to take vacations and
several have implemented programs to help create balance. Moreover, we have
more choices available for support or group understanding. The Internet enables
us to reach out to others anywhere in the world who may share our same concerns
and frustrations.
Need
some support? There are a lot of “stakes” out there to support your growth!
- Career and life coaches have become the norm and many
companies even subsidize the cost.
- Group coaching for people experiencing the same issues or
concerns.
- Certified career counselors can be very beneficial to
supporting change and for encouragement.
- Networking groups. I have twins and when my kids were
young our local Mother of Twins club kept me sane!
- Meetup groups are fantastic and ongoing all over the
country. You can find any group to fuel a passion or be with like minds.
- Find a mentor. Numerous organizations have in-house
programs as part of career development programs.
- Facebook can actually be a great resource for support. I
was a member of a closed online mentoring group for a year and it was phenomenal. I met some great ladies.
- How about joining career groups like the AMA, Professional
Speakers Association or other industry specific groups. I belong to our local Lean In group as
well a local women’s group and it really helps me stay grounded. It is a safe
haven to share my work balance concerns.
- Jump into some volunteering with a local chamber or diversity
groups.You will grow professionally and support your personal enrichment.
- Join coworkers after work just to chat and get to know
each other. You may find some new support or make a new confidant. My husband
attends “beer league” at least twice a month with some coworkers and has really
deepened some relationships.
Support and feeling like we are not alone is so critical in
our fast paced society. Don’t try to grow alone, welcome a helping hand.
When the going gets tough, find a “stake” to support you. At times I liken
myself to the conifers that I support with stakes….The more support I have , the more likely I will be strengthened and become the living art that I was placed
on earth to be!
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